She hates her stroller now, and doesn't want to ride in it. So my husband and I sent her a tricycle stroller for her birthday. It is a full-sized tricycle but with a canopy and handles to make it a stroller as well. It's a pretty large tricycle and she is not quite tall enough to reach the pedals so she uses the footrest. When she no longer needs a stroller, the stroller parts can be removed and she will have a real tricycle that adjusts a lot so it will be the right size until she is six or so. The trike/stroller is a genuine Bentley, made by the Bentley Motor Company. My son said he always wanted to drive a Bentley and now he does. Violet loves it because she can "steer" with the handlebars.
Violet and her Bentley Yes, that's a Pink Floyd shirt.
Who doesn't love "Dark Side of the Moon"?
Violet's other big present was from her parents. An outdoor gym, complete with slide, swings, ladders and a picnic table. She loves going to a nearby park so she was really excited to have one in her own yard. Before the workmen had driven off after assembling it, she grabbed her jacket and took it to her father. She climbed up the ladder and slid down the slide time and time again. Her father told her she could come down the slide one more time and then they must go inside. "Understand, Violet? You may slide down one more time and then we go inside." So Violet climbed up to the top of the slide. She gave her father a defiant look and sat on the top of the slide. Since she knew sliding down meant going inside, she simply sat there. It's going to be an interesting year.
She loves the gym
Most readers know that Violet is adopted. Her birth mother selected my son and his wife to be her parents when the adoption agency gave her several biographies and photographs of potential parents. While my son and d-i-l would have preferred an open adoption, the birth mother wanted the adoption closed so they have never met her. Immediately after the routine care after the birth, the little baby girl was taken to a room adjacent to the delivery room and handed to her adoptive parents.
Immediately after her birth in her new mother's arms
The hero of Violet's two years on earth is the courageous young woman who gave birth to her and who made two of the most difficult decisions any woman can make; 1.) to give birth and 2.) to have the baby adopted. We are blessed and think of her often. All of us still hope that some day she may want to be a part of Violet's life although we will continue to respect her decision. Our son and d-i-l maintain a portfolio of Violet's life and send regular updates to the adoption agency to keep in case the birth mother wants to see the photographs. And they have told the agency they would be happy to receive the mother in their home should she desire at any time to see Violet.
Instead of a birthday party on Violet's first birthday, our son and d-i-l held an open house for all the people who assisted in Violet's adoption. Friends who wrote references and went for interviews, friends who helped get their house ready on short notice, the social workers from the adoption agency and others involved in any way dropped by for champagne and hors d'oeuvre and left with a small potted plant. A violet, of course.
And beginning with her birth and both Mother's Days since Violet's parents plant violets in their natural yard in honor of the woman who gave them the most precious gift possible.
Violets are symbolic of love and harmony
Today's quotes come from birth mothers written anonymously. They are the true heroes of the adoption story. While people say how lucky the child is, the truth is how lucky the adoptive parents are.
"A mother's love for her child is like no other. To be able to put that feeling aside because you want the best for your child is the most unselfish thing I know."
"He is mine in a way he will never be hers, yet he is hers in a way he will never be mine. So together we are motherhood."
"If you love someone unconditionally and with your whole heart, then you will do what is best for them, not you. I have never learned a harder lesson than giving my child up for adoption, and I probably never will.
HAVE A WONDERFUL WEEK, EVERYONE
FILLED WITH LOVE AND HARMONY